Short Story: The Weight of the World on My Shoulders (reflection music to read to)
The Weight of the World on My Shoulders by Ruben White
The clock blinked at 3:00 AM, its red digits glowing like embers in the darkness. Sleep, as usual, remained elusive. My mind, a tireless hamster on a wheel, kept replaying the day's events, each interaction a tiny thread weaving a tapestry of anxieties.
Today, it was Sarah needing a last-minute babysitter. Tomorrow, it'll be Mark asking for help moving, and the day after, it'll be Mom needing a ride to her doctor's appointment. The requests, like waves crashing against a shore, are relentless and unending. And like the shore, I erode a little with each passing wave.
They call me selfless, a good friend, and always there for them. I wear these labels like medals of honor, but lately, they feel more like lead weights dragging me down.
I am the friend who always picks up the pieces, the one who listens patiently to everyone else's woes, offering advice and support. I am the shoulder to cry on, the rock in the storm. But who am I when the storm rages within me?
The truth is, I'm terrified of confronting my own emotions. They're a tangled mess of knots, a dark, uncharted territory I'd rather avoid. It's easier to focus on others, to lose myself in their problems than to delve into the labyrinth of my own.
It's like I'm a character in a play, constantly performing for an audience. I put on a mask of cheerfulness, of strength, of unwavering support. But behind the mask, there's a growing sense of emptiness, a void that no amount of external validation can fill.
I'm starting to realize that my "selflessness" is a form of self-preservation, a defense mechanism against facing my own vulnerabilities. By focusing on others, I can keep my own emotions at bay, locked away in a Pandora's Box I'm afraid to open.
But the box is overflowing, its contents threatening to spill out and overwhelm me. I can feel the pressure building, the weight of all those unexpressed emotions bearing down on me.
I'm like a juggler, keeping all these balls in the air ā everyone else's needs, their expectations, their problems. But I'm forgetting the most important ball, the one that represents my own well-being. And I'm starting to falter, my arms aching, my focus blurring.
I know I can't keep this up. I can't keep sacrificing my own needs at the altar of everyone else's. It's not sustainable, and it's not healthy.
I need to learn to say "no," to set boundaries, to prioritize my own well-being. I need to stop being the supporting character in everyone else's story and start writing my own.
But where do I even begin? How do I break free from this pattern of self-neglect? How do I learn to put myself first without feeling guilty, without feeling like I'm letting everyone down?
Maybe it starts with small steps. Maybe it starts with carving out some time for myself each day, even if it's just 15 minutes to read a book or take a walk. Maybe it starts with saying "no" to one request, one favor, one obligation.
Maybe it starts with acknowledging my own feelings, with giving myself permission to feel them, to explore them, to understand them. Maybe it starts with being honest with myself and with others about my needs and limitations.
I know it won't be easy. It's like learning to walk again after years of being confined to a wheelchair. It will take time, patience, and a lot of courage.
But I'm determined to do it. I'm determined to break free from this cycle of self-sacrifice and reclaim my own life. I'm determined to find my voice, to assert my needs, to prioritize my own well-being.
I am strong. I am worthy. I am deserving of love and happiness.
#selflove #boundaries #emotionalhealth #mentalhealth #wellbeing #selfcare #healing #growth #mindfulness #authenticity
Later that day:
I actually managed to get a few hours of sleep! Maybe writing things down helped me release some of the pressure. I feel a little lighter today, a little more hopeful.
I even managed to say "no" to Mark when he asked me to help him move this weekend. I told him I already had plans, which wasn't entirely a lie. I do have plans ā plans to spend some time with myself, to do something I enjoy, to recharge my batteries.
It felt strange at first, saying "no" without offering a lengthy explanation or apology. But Mark seemed to accept it without any fuss. Maybe I've been overthinking things all along. Maybe people aren't as demanding as I perceive them to be.
Or maybe it's because I said it with conviction, with a newfound sense of self-assurance. I didn't feel the usual guilt or anxiety. Instead, I felt a sense of empowerment, a sense of liberation.
It's a small victory, but it's a start. I'm taking back control of my life, one "no" at a time. I'm learning to prioritize my own needs, to set boundaries, to protect my own energy.
I'm like a tree shedding its old leaves, making way for new growth. It's a process of renewal, of letting go of the old patterns and embracing a new way of being.
I'm still scared, still unsure of myself. But I'm also excited, hopeful, and determined. I'm on a journey of self-discovery, of self-love, of self-acceptance. And I'm finally starting to believe that I deserve to be happy.
#selfdiscovery #selfacceptance #newbeginnings #growthmindset #positiveaffirmations #innerpeace #joy
Evening:
I spent the afternoon at the park, just sitting on a bench, watching the children play, and listening to the birds sing. It was so peaceful, so rejuvenating. I haven't felt this relaxed in ages.
I realized something today. My constant focus on others, and my need to please everyone, stems from a deep-seated fear of rejection. I'm afraid that if I don't meet everyone's expectations, they'll abandon me and leave me alone.
It's like I'm a child again, desperately seeking approval, trying to earn love by being "good" and helpful. But the truth is, true love is unconditional. It doesn't require me to be perfect, to be everything to everyone.
I'm learning to love myself, flaws and all. I'm learning to accept myself for who I am, not for who I think others want me to be. And I'm starting to believe that I am worthy of love, simply because I exist.
#selfworth #unconditionallove #innerchildhealing #acceptance #beyourself #loveyourself
Night:
I just had a long conversation with Sarah. I told her how I've been feeling lately, about my struggles with setting boundaries and prioritizing my own needs.
I was so nervous, my heart pounding in my chest. I was afraid she'd be angry, that she'd think I was being selfish. But she surprised me.
She listened patiently, without judgment. She told me she understood that she admired my strength and selflessness, but that it was okay to put myself first sometimes. She even thanked me for being honest with her.
I felt such a wave of relief wash over me. It was like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I realized that true friends don't expect you to be perfect, they accept you for who you are, flaws and all.
I'm so grateful for Sarah's understanding and support. It means the world to me. I'm starting to realize that I'm not alone in this journey. I have people who care about me, people who want me to be happy.
And most importantly, I have myself. I'm learning to be my own best friend, my own biggest supporter. I'm learning to love myself, to cherish myself, to put myself first.
It's a journey, not a destination. But I'm on the right path, and I'm excited to see where it leads me.
#gratitude #friendship #support #selfcompassion #journeyofselfdiscovery #healing
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